January 17, 2011

Wedding Bells

No. I am not getting married. Not as yet ;). The title was only to get some traffic into the blog :P Here is my actual post:
As I was leaving her home, the aunty asked, "So, yavaaga oota haakstidiya?" (Roughly translated, "when am i getting invited for lunch?").
I took the question at face value and told her that she was welcome any weekend. That i have been coaxing her to come home but she never does! To it she laughs and says, "Not that oota, maduve oota!"
That's when i realize the dumbness of my reply. There is an awkward pause which dad tries to fill up saying, "In good time".
Last week, i get talking to a gentleman on the way to Mysore. We discuss a variety of topics like real estate prices in Bangalore and Mysore, traveling between the two cities, lack of B&B's in India, how the Home stay concept is now catching on well. I was feeling good about getting to have a nice conversation in the course of the journey. Then he suddenly asks, "So, you are what, 25?"
I was initially taken aback at the bluntness of the question. Composed myself and said, "Uh huh, not yet".
So he says, "Ha! Then you got time! For the wedding bells, you know ;)!"
Excuse me? Is 25 like an expiry date? Why is the whole world concerned about my wedding, oota and all the things associated with it?
Buy gold and they say, "Ha! You need it for the wedding".
Lose weight and you are asked if you are dieting before parents start looking for a groom!!
You are surveyed thoroughly if you by mistake end up at a wedding! "Oh! You stay by yourself in Bangalore? You can cook? Super!" I am consciously avoiding attending weddings or other gatherings these days! I mean, please give me a break!
There is no way i can mention a friend's impending wedding now without a few eyebrows being raised, as if to ask what reason i have to be happy right now?! I never faced peer pressure at school. But this is one place where i think the pressure will be imposed upon me!
To all the Aunts and Uncles out there:
You might mean well, but no thank you for your concern or photographs of prospective grooms. My parents are there to worry about my wedding. You don't have to remind them that i am growing older! Or that the number of "nice" ( you go figure its definition :D) guys is dwindling by the day! When i tie the knot, you shall be invited. I will be getting married for my happiness, not yielding to pressure! Till then, please let me be!


  1. First of all, good job with the title! When I read it, I thought 'Alright, here goes another one!' :P

    Best statement: Is 25 like an expiry date?

    Absolutely loved this post :)

  2. Was waiting for a post in this blog and there it is !
    There is more to expect during the course ! Lol

    A Lady once told me that she likes to see young couples everywhere and i should also get married asap !.
    People would like to see the world in the way they want it to be and would just create a lot of dissonant tension to your thoughts.

  3. hahaha! super post! i can see you trying to get all the frustration out! i too sometimes feel like screaming out loud to just say let me be!! and the culprits are not really the parents you know, they are all those "well meaning" aunts and uncles as you say! :P
    anyways, till we take the leap of faith, cheers to being single! :D

  4. @PJ,
    Thanks ;)

    What a fetish! Like to see young couples! God!

    Cheers! Happy times to us!

  5. haha.. nice..
    i too like that expire date one..!! :P

  6. thats the way it is.welcome to real world..

  7. the best part of ur blog is the cooking and recipes.. thank god and you ..for making it simple ... i loved my food when i cooked it for the first time .. :) cheers !! .. i do agree with the line in " ABOUT MYSELF" on the top which reads " i love cooking and am a good cook ( can get my friends to vouch ) i would be one of them any day.

  8. nice post :)
    best about post was its "TITLE"
    :) gud work :)

  9. @Prathap and Athif,

    Thanks :)


    All the best with your cooking! Really, the process of learning the ropes of cooking, the successes and failures along the way is unmatched.

  10. Ya cooking is a nice process. i agree with u.. have had a great experience..:P :P
    photos are good arent they aparna.. :P :P (my set of photos on fb)

  11. Title is good! and the blog is also very nicely written.As PJ said 25- expiry date : LOL material.When we guys only go to natives if we are questioned about our plans,can only imagine the plight of eligible girls!!Good going!!

  12. @Prathap

    Well, those pics were nothing less than a disaster! Hope your culinary skills have improved by now.


    Tell me about it! But I am surprised that you are inquired after! As in, is the eligibility age for the guys coming down? Happy time handling the relatives! And all the best with finding the girl to get tied down with!

  13. Nice blog :) I don't know if they even care about you getting married! Maybe they just say it for the sake of passing a comment!

  14. haha.. ya ya.. was a great disaster.. guess ve improved.. :) wish to do so more..

  15. "Exactly is the word".This shows the frustration of every independent gal of today.me not being an exception!!Bold and nicely written...:)

  16. Ha ha ha... I had exactly the same concerns. I yelled at the photographer at my cousin's wedding to not take any of pics, lest relatives got a hold of them ;) But, don't miss out on the wedding madness ;)

  17. @Ambika,

    All the best ;)


    Weddings are fun, can't agree more. But as of now, am steering clear of them :)

  18. hahaha goood one :) Its same every house hold having these aunts and relatives :) who always remind parents about our wedding :) i liked ur blog..